Are you also one of those people who jump into a relationship but end up alone very soon? This is a very common situation with most people. You first get prompted by your friends because all of them are mingled and you do not want to be left out. But, as soon as you find yourself a partner, you feel like it was much better when you used to be single, right? So, which life is better for you? Single or in a relationship?
Wanting to be single when in a relationship is quite common. There can be a series of reasons behind this thought. No need to worry, I have covered everything you need to know about it.
If you want to find the answer to this confusion about yourself, we know how you need to introspect yourself.
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How Do You Know If You Should Be Single Or In A Relationship?
This is really perplexing, though we are supposed to know almost everything about ourselves, there are still some instances when we get confused as to what we exactly want. The same goes for your relationship status. Would you like it to be single or mingled?
Though most people have an insight into this, there are some people who feel like being alone as soon as they enter a relationship. Well, there can be two cases here, maybe you are not finding an appropriate partner for yourself due to which you feel like quitting the relationship, while the other reason might be that you just simply want to stay single for time being, or throughout your entire life.
Now the question is, how to know which one is the situation in your case?
Do I Want To Be Single Or In A Relationship Quiz
Well, let us do a little quiz by the end of which you might get a little idea of what exactly you want to have, a single life or a happy married life.
Here are a few questions that I would like to ask you about yourself, answer them to yourself honestly and you will know which direction they are taking you. You can skip the question that does not relate to you and move to the next one.
1. Have you ever been in a relationship?
If the answer to this question is No, then you cannot decide what you want. You need to first make an attempt to enter a relationship, spend some time with a partner and then see how you feel about your relationship to go with our further questions.
However, if your answer is yes, then you can proceed with our next question.
2. Did You Break Up Your Relationship Very Soon?
Did you just enter a relationship and ended it within a few weeks? If yes, then there might be chances that you just were not prepared for a new phase of your life, to share your time with someone else, as we know that after getting into a romantic relationship, we have to give a great chunk of our time to our partner.
So, this might have made you nervous and you consequently felt that relationships are not made for you and you are meant to be single. However, that might not be the case.
3. Do You Like To Spend Time With Your Partner?
If you are or have ever been in a relationship, just ask yourself if you liked to spend time with your romantic partner. If it is a yes, then you definitely would want to be in a relationship. People who want to be single, will not like spending time with the other person after getting into a relationship.
However, if you didn’t like to spend time with him/her, there are a few more questions you need to ask yourself.
4. Did Your And Your Partner’s Choices Match?
Here, you have to try to know the reason why you didn’t like spending time with your partner. If this is because he/she liked to spend time with you the other way which you didn’t prefer and things were not going your way, then this might be because you do have not the right companion for yourself and you need to look for someone else. Here, you cannot say that you just want to be single forever, it is just a matter of the wrong choice.
But, if you two even have similar choices and you still do not like to spend time with your partner, then you just prefer to be alone and do things on your own, and thus, you do not need a partner.
But wait, you can’t just conclude here, there is still a lot more to know.
5. Does Your Partner Quarrel A Lot With You?
If you receive negative energy from someone, you would obviously not want to spend your entire life with them, would you? That is it. If your partner has always found one or the other reason to put up a quarrel with you, then they are just toxic for your mental health, and nobody wants to spend time with someone who disrupts their mental peace.
This means that all you need is a better partner to have a relationship with and nothing else.
But, if you are having a peaceful relationship and still you do not feel like being with them, then this indicates to a great extent that you want to be single.
6. Do You Add Up Spice In Your Relationship?
If there is no adventure, there is no fun, nobody wants to be with a boring person. Maybe your partner is just not that lively and you are feeling like your life is getting wasted with them. As a single person, you would have more freedom to do everything that excites you. But, if you add the same excitement to your relationship, you might want to continue your relationship with your partner.
But if even the excitement and adventure are there and you still don’t want to continue it, you are born to be single.
7. Is There Emotional Understanding In Your Relationship?
Emotional support is one of the most important components of a healthy relationship. If you are not getting this from your partner, the relationship cannot work out at all. This is just a sign for you to break up and find another person who will listen to you, understand you, make you feel good about yourself, and will be empathetic toward you.
If your partner even understands you emotionally and you still want to break up, then this is yet another sign that you should be single.
8. Are There Any Romantic Moments In Your Relationship?
Romance has to take up the most space in a relationship. If you two are not physically intimate, then there are great chances that one of you might end up parting with the other, and this person could be you.
Having intimate moments and romance with your partner brings you two closer than ever and you would hold onto them throughout your life.
But if even intimate and romantic moments are not enough for you to stay with them, then you are meant to be single.
9. Do You Feel Like Having A Family Of Your Own?
Does the thought of having your own children to nurture, care for, to play with come to your mind? If yes, then it means that you want to be a family person, and that is possible only when you have a relationship, as long as you aren’t just planning to adopt some kids.
If you are not at all interested in having your own family, a wife, and kids, then you surely want to be single.
Single Or Relationship?
Now that you have gone through these nine questions from our quiz, I believe that you have already found the answer to whether you would like to stay single or in a relationship.
See, if your partner has the potential, and you do not find any great flaws in him/her considerable enough to break up, but you still feel that you do not want to be in a relationship, then it is because you are not the person who is made for relationships. You should stay single then.
But if that is not the case, you just need a better choice of partner for yourself who you can be happy with.
Why Do I Want To Be Single When I’m In A Relationship?
If you are already in a relationship and you still wish to be single, it is either because relationships are not the thing for you, or maybe you just haven’t chosen the right partner to be with. You might be feeling that you are caged because of this relationship and that you need freedom.
I will add more details to this article soon, till then you can check out my other article on How To Break Up A Relationship Without Hurting?